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felt my baby girl kick

  • I feel so great...would love some comments from dads and moms...best advice you could give me would so respected by me...I feel so lucky and truly BLESSED!!!! Please give me honest advice...thank you!!!!

    Alabamaforever

  • Alabamaforever said...

    I feel so great...would love some comments from dads and moms...best advice you could give me would so respected by me...I feel so lucky and truly BLESSED!!!! Please give me honest advice...thank you!!!!

    Congrats man. Being a parent is the best thing there is. I won't bother trying to tell you what it's like because nobody can. You don't realize how much you can love someone until you hold that baby.

    Anyway best advice I can give is have some family around, preferably your mom and/or hers when the baby first comes home. A little help during that time is always good, you and your wife will be tired an freaking out a little. Just relax, you'll figure it all out a you go just like the rest of us did. Good luck and enjoy the new kid, it goes by faster than you can imagine.

    Also take ridiculous amounts of pictures and video. No matter how much you have, later on you'll wish you had more.

    Landshark22

  • awesome - congrats!!!!

    wish those things came with a book, but they do not. you WILL make mistakes as a young parent, thinking you need to do this or that, so always keep your head up and admit it when you do mess up. as the other poster said, make sure you show that little girl what true love is. not any of this fake mess little girls have to deal with by punk "dudes".

    I've got two girls (and a boy) and it's my main job to show everyday (how i treat their mother) how a real man is to treat a lady, and how a lady should want to be treated. that's your job as a dad - all that other stuff, you'll do just fine, cause no one's perfect.

    A great book to read is "what a difference a Daddy Makes" by Kevin Leman.

    she will get her self image from YOU - not her mother, not her friends - it's how YOU treat her and make her feel special, smart, beautiful (not just outside, but inside). it's a great book, and worth the few dollars. of course, it's only a book, and your daughter will be different than everyone else.

    bottom line - Love her and make sure you are there for her.

    enjoy the journey.

    not to be biased - a great "son" book, for when/if that happens is "Bringing up boys " by James Dobson.

    RTR

    viper_36

  • Congrats. Buy a gun and drum up a fake arrest record for when the boys come over.

    imabamadad

  • Alabamaforever said...

    I feel so great...would love some comments from dads and moms...best advice you could give me would so respected by me...I feel so lucky and truly BLESSED!!!! Please give me honest advice...thank you!!!!

    Like someone said, no one can describe it to you. 2 years later, I still can't put into words the feeling of holding mine for the first time...or the most recent time for that matter.

    My best advice is this: You'll have moments of uncertainty and even fear between now and the big day. That's normal, but do your best to relax. Once it is in front of you, you'll realize that being a parent is just the most natural and instinctual thing in the world and that you've known how to do this all along.

    Want more advice? Everyone receives a copy of "What to Expect in the First Year" from someone. There are lots of good things in that book and you'll learn a lot from it. If you're the dad, you should check out the book I've linked. If you're the mom, get it for the dad. It contains lots of information about the baby from the father's perspective but also contains lots of information about what the new mother is going through at any given time...things most men would never guess or respond to properly.

    Finally, make her first words "Roll Tide".

    The New Father: A Dad's Guide to the First Year:Amazon:Books

    Amazon:The New Father: A Dad's Guide to the First Year

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    Uncle DP

  • As someone mentioned above having the grandparents over to give you and your wife a break here and there is a big help. I think the best advice anyone gave us was to not put the baby on a schedule right out of the gate. Just sleep when she sleeps and don't try making her eat. Even as an infant they will let you know when they want to eat. Good luck man and as long as you love that little girl with all your heart the rest will work itself out.

    BigAl4President

  • BigAl4President said...

    As someone mentioned above having the grandparents over to give you and your wife a break here and there is a big help. I think the best advice anyone gave us was to not put the baby on a schedule right out of the gate. Just sleep when she sleeps and don't try making her eat. Even as an infant they will let you know when they want to eat. Good luck man and as long as you love that little girl with all your heart the rest will work itself out.

    Sleep now! Our second is three weeks old and we had forgotten how little sleep you get (unless you get lucky an get one of those babies that come out an sleep 8 hours through the night). There will come a time in that first month when everyone is tired and frustrated and probably saying some mean things. It will pass. Good Luck!

    Poor bastards getting off the bus in Tuscaloosa will probably feel like those dumped on Omaha Beach - Unknown Vol's fan

    acp2621

  • I have a 7 week old, so I'm in the trenches right now. Everyone will tell you how great it is, and it's true, but here's the cold truth as I've been through it so far.

    First, make it a priority to figure out how to make your baby sleep. We have to use a combination of swaddling, a fully tummy and white noise. Without this magic formula, he only sleeps for 2-3 hours at a time. With this combination, we can get up to 6 hours of sleep out of the little guy.

    Second, there will be times where your little one cries for no reason. That's okay. Sometimes my little one just needs to cry for a bit. I don't know if it's exercise or if he's working out his lungs or what it is, but he just enjoys crying for a spell. If you can comfort your little one, even for a moment, nothing is wrong. If you can't get your little one to stop crying, then there may be a problem.

    Third, know that your wife's hormones will still be out of whack. She will cry for silly reasons. She will get furious for silly reasons. She will take everything the baby does personally. It can be really hard on you, so be prepared. Do your best to be supportive and strong for her (and resist the urge to engage in any fights).

    Finally, make sure you find some quiet time for you, make some quiet time for your wife and try to spend one night a week together and away from the baby after the first couple of weeks. Your marriage will need this time. Your wife (if she is like mine) will need to get used to being away from the little one and your little girl needs to get used to you not always being there.

    Oh, and one more finally. Don't let your little girl sleep in the bed with you. Not only does it increase the risk of SIDS but it also starts creating a bad habit.

    It will be an awesome experience for you, but it ain't easy. Frankly, you will hate it at times. But it's totally worth it. The days will drag on but the weeks will fly by. Always make sure you have plenty of formula and diapers and try to enjoy the ride!

    crimsonlaw

  • Congrats to the OP, and thanks for the great advice. My 1st. child (a girl also) will be here in July.

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    Run37

  • Sippin' whiskey helps with the crying and sleeping imo

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    BSEan

  • Congrats! Girls are awesome! I have two (4 and 2). One watches football with me and loves super heroes while my other likes toe nail polish and princesses. Working on two boys now.

    Bama Illinois

  • Crush up some Tylenol PM and mix it in the formula to help with sleep imo

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    BSEan

  • Her first step to having you wrapped around her finger. Congratulations and enjoy!

    nuc_meltdown

  • BSEan said...

    Sippin' whiskey helps with the crying and sleeping imo

    What kind of whiskey does a baby like?

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    Run37

  • If someone will link up the song by Sam Cooke called "Tenderness", those are the words that make me think of the example I should set for my daughter and the love that I should show her.

    Gottaluvthetide

  • Just had a little girl ourselves. Here's the honest to God's best advice I can give you.

    - Keep the visitors to a BARE minimum in the hospital.....it gets overwhelming quick
    - Be a rock for your wife, she'll go through a ton of changes/hormones/emotions in a quick span
    - The first 3 weeks are borderline unbearable (adapting, lack of sleep, emotions, crying, doctor)
    - Pray that she doesn't have colic or reflux (tears your heart up to see your little one hurt)
    - If your wife has a hard time breast feeding.....brace yourself
    - The baby blues and postpartum are very real (she may or may not get them)
    - Between 6-12 weeks, EVERYTHING changes for the better!!!
    - The first time she smiles, you'll crumble
    - Get out of the house as much as possible and don't get "cabin fever"
    - Pick a routine/schedule (choose one, it doesn't matter) and stick with it, don't bounce around
    - Have patience, they are a handful
    - and finally, LOVE HER LIKE CRAZY. They are work, but they are the biggest blessing in the world.

    - Our little girl is 12 weeks old and we are just now reaping the rewards of the schedule, her getting a little older, and us hitting our stride as new parents. She is 100 times better than she was just a month ago, and while the days seemed long and miserable at times in the beginning, I wouldn't trade a second of it for a million dollars. We now have a beautiful little girl who is on a great routine, sleeps 10+ hours a night, is happy as can be, and is growing up WAY to fast!

    Congrats my man!!

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    Halftime Speech

  • Thanks all of you. I mentioned above, my second is three weeks old. I knew all that is being said from my previous son, but, knowing and living are two different things. The last three weeks have been rough. He doesn't sleep very well and we are exhausted. My wife is taking the brunt of the load. It is encouraging just reading some of these posts because it reminds me that it isn't like this forever. I'm laying in bed with him sleeping on my chest so my wife can sleep at least a couple of hours before I have to go to bed so I can go to work in the morning. Times are tough, but, I love having him lay with me like this.

    Poor bastards getting off the bus in Tuscaloosa will probably feel like those dumped on Omaha Beach - Unknown Vol's fan

    acp2621

  • Run37 said...

    What kind of whiskey does a baby like?

    only the best imo. your baby's well-being is not something you want to threaten by pinching pennies

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    BSEan

  • BSEan said...

    only the best imo. your baby's well-being is not something you want to threaten by pinching pennies

    lol

    Poor bastards getting off the bus in Tuscaloosa will probably feel like those dumped on Omaha Beach - Unknown Vol's fan

    acp2621

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    the11

  • Appreciate the advice on this thread as well. We're expecting our first (a girl) in early August, about the same time that preseason practice will start.

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